*** This blogpost might have some spoilers in it ***
Okay before you unfollow, unfriend, block, mute, whatever me: Hear me out, please:
I've heard everything about 50 Shades of Grey. Literally everything. That it's abuse, that it's rape, that it's sexually violent and an anti-romance... and I do not agree. I don't think any of that is true, so please hear me out.
For the longest time I believed everything the media told me. Everything. Every. Single. Lie. I had multiple arguments about it with my sister where she was always like "It's not true." and I was just like " It is, blahblah." But I didn't even know what I was talking about. At some point I finally realised that I've got now clue what I was talking about and I thought I'd do some research about it. So.. I watched the movie.
Now, I haven't read the books ( I'm gonna if you want me to ) but I can safety say there was no sign of abuse in this movie.
You may think "Dude, I saw those things on tumblr.." Yea yea alright,I saw them too! ..But that was the book. Has anyone of those who hate the movie so much actually seen the movie? I don't think so. Because if so, you wouldn't hate it. You would only hate it because of other reasons but not because it's abuse or sexual harassement.
Abuse, Rape or anything like that is hella serious and not funny at all. You shouldn't make jokes about it.. just as much as you shouldn't lie about it.
Now, because I don't think any of you, who still hate the movie, have actually seen the movie.. Let me just tell you what actually happens:
There is this girl named Kate. She works for some sort of newpaper, i assume, and she wanted to do an interview with multi-billionaire Christian Grey. Now, Kate got ill and she asked her friend, Anastasia, who has nothing to do with the newspaper, to go to the interview for her. Because Ana is kind and always there for her friend and roommate Kate, she's going to the interview. She arrives at the Grey house and they let her in. When she gets in his office he is handsome, nice and polite in front of her. She asks like three of Kates questions because they can't get more done, because now Christian Grey wants to know a bit about Ana herself.
Basicially he seems super interested in Ana and Ana is kinda interested too but she doesn't want to believe it, really. They then go out for a Coffee and when Ana mentioned romance he went "I can't stay, Ana. I have to set you free." Ana, who did not understand what just had happened, is now more and more confused, because even tho he said he has to set her free, he's "emailing" ( who does that ) her and sending her expensive things, like books.
At some point they end up in his house where he got out a contract which doesn't Ana allow to talk about anything that happenes with Christian's work or something. Because she wouldn't have said anything either way, she signed it without hasitating.
When he showed Ana his "playroom", which Ana beautifully calls "The Red Room of Pain",
she was shocked, to say the least, but she stayed and told him that she's a virgin. They went to his bedroom and he nice and politely took her virginity. Ana was happy and so was Christian.
At some point he also showed her the contract. It was a like.. maybe 10-page contract. It basicially had all the things in it, that Christian is.. into, appareantly. She doesn't sign the contract just yet. She said she wants to think about it, he said "Take your time" and so she did. Christian waited and waited and Ana just didn't read the contract, but one night she actually did it. After that she invited herself to a "business meeting" with Christian because she had some issues with the contract.
At the business meeting they discussed all the things Ana wasn't comfortable doing, like anal/vaginal fisting and butt plugs ( < just a few examples ). Christian, who did NOT made her do any of those things, striked out all the things she wasn't comfortable with and actually added a real date once a week to the contract. After they striked everything out, Ana left, still, without signing it.
When they went to his "playroom" for the first time, Ana got undressed, Christian braided her hair and she just hung from the ceiling while they were making out and having sex. She also got whipped, but he asked her if it really hurt that much and she said no and that it actually felt quite nice.
The movie wasn't about abuse at all. The only scene I didn't understand at all was the last scene after the playroom where Ana called Christian out and demanted that he punishes her ( She actually did that. She demanted it! ). She wanted it. He whipped her, with a belt, six times. Which was hard and sad to watch because Ana, naked and bend over the table, was already crying. She was also supposed to count with him to six. After he was "finished" he felt horrible and she did too. She started crying even more and said things like "Does that give you pleasure? Seeing me like this?" You could see that it didn't give him pleasure at all, he regretted it and so did she. She ran out the room, got dressed and wanted to leave. Christian wanted to apologize but Ana didn't let him. She said "No" and "Stop" and he stopped. He let her go.
The movie ends with a cliffhanger that made my heart stop. Just like one of the first scenes Ana was in the elevator about to leave, and Christian was outside the elevator looking at her. He went "Anastasia" and she went "Christian." right before the elevator closed.
After all she enjoyed what he was doing to her while he enjoyed what he was doing to her, as well. She never said something about not wanting it or wanting him to stop, or else. They both enjoyed it, while they we're having weird sex, and that is totally okay.
You sure have to watch the movie yourself if you want to find out yourself, but here I am, telling you guys that it's not true. Not everything the media says is true, believe me. I hated myself after I watched the movie, because I was so possessed with my opinion that it IS abuse. Well guess what. It's not. The last scene was.. not okay. But guys, it's a movie after all. She showed him that it's not okay, he knows it now. He learned something from that. Just like you should from this blogpost.
Now onto my actual movie review:
After all I think the movie was pretty good. The storyline was interesting, and so was each scene. Every single scene was like a single puzzle piece to the whole plot. I really liked the actors and how they harmonized with each other. They were also naked quite a lot and the movie is +18 so do not watch it, if you're underaged! ( oops )
After all I'd give it 9 out of 10 stars! I really liked it.
I hope I didn't forget anything important in this post. But if I do so and you notice it, please let me know in the comments below. Thank you very much! <3
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