Movie Review: 50 Shades of Grey

*** This blogpost might have some spoilers in it ***

Okay before you unfollow, unfriend, block, mute, whatever me: Hear me out, please: 

I've heard everything about 50 Shades of Grey. Literally everything. That it's abuse, that it's rape, that it's sexually violent and an anti-romance... and I do not agree.  I don't think any of that is true, so please hear me out. 

For the longest time  I believed everything the media told me. Everything. Every. Single. Lie.  I had multiple arguments about it with my sister where she was always like "It's not true." and  I was just like " It is, blahblah." But I didn't even know what I was talking about. At some point I finally realised that I've got now clue what I was talking about and I thought I'd do some research about it. So.. I watched the movie. 

Now, I haven't read the books ( I'm gonna if you want me to )  but I can safety say there was no sign of abuse in this movie.  

You may think  "Dude, I saw those things on tumblr.." Yea yea alright,I saw them too! ..But that was the book. Has anyone of those who hate the movie so much actually seen the movie? I don't think so. Because if so, you wouldn't hate it. You would only hate it because of other reasons but not because it's abuse or sexual harassement. 

Abuse, Rape or anything like that is hella serious and not funny at all. You shouldn't make jokes about it.. just as much as you shouldn't lie about it. 

Now, because I don't think any of you, who still hate the movie, have actually seen the movie.. Let me just tell you what actually happens:

There is this girl named Kate. She works for some sort of newpaper, i assume, and she wanted to do an interview with multi-billionaire Christian Grey. Now, Kate got ill and she asked her friend, Anastasia, who has nothing to do with the newspaper, to go to the interview for her. Because Ana is kind and always there for her friend and roommate Kate, she's going to the interview. She arrives at the Grey house and they let her in. When she gets in his office he is handsome, nice and polite in front of her. She asks like three of Kates questions because they can't get more done, because now Christian Grey wants to know a bit about Ana herself. 

Basicially he seems super interested in Ana and Ana is kinda interested too but she doesn't want to believe it, really. They then go out for a Coffee and when Ana mentioned romance he went "I can't stay, Ana. I have to set you free." Ana, who did not understand what just had happened, is now more and more confused, because even tho he said he has to set her free, he's "emailing" ( who does that ) her and sending her expensive things, like books. 

At some point they end up in his house where he got out a contract which doesn't Ana allow to talk about anything that happenes with Christian's work or something. Because she wouldn't have said anything either way, she signed it without hasitating. 

When he showed Ana his "playroom", which Ana beautifully calls "The Red Room of Pain",

she was shocked, to say the least, but she stayed and told him that she's a virgin. They went to his bedroom and he nice and politely took her virginity. Ana was happy and so was Christian. 

At some point he also showed her the contract. It was a like.. maybe 10-page contract. It basicially had all the things in it, that Christian is.. into, appareantly. She doesn't sign the contract just yet. She said she wants to think about it, he said "Take your time" and so she did. Christian waited and waited and Ana just didn't read the contract, but one night she actually did it. After that she invited herself to a "business meeting" with Christian because she had some issues with the contract. 

At the business meeting they discussed all the things Ana wasn't comfortable doing, like anal/vaginal fisting and butt plugs ( < just a few examples ). Christian, who did NOT made her do any of those things, striked out all the things she wasn't comfortable with and actually added a real date once a week to the contract. After they striked everything out, Ana left, still, without signing it. 

When they went to his "playroom" for the first time, Ana got undressed, Christian braided her hair and she just hung from the ceiling while they were making out and having sex. She also got whipped, but he asked her if it really hurt that much and she said no and that it actually felt quite nice. 

The movie wasn't about abuse at all. The only scene I didn't understand at all was the last scene after the playroom where Ana called Christian out and demanted that he punishes her ( She actually did that. She demanted it! ). She wanted it. He whipped her, with a belt, six times. Which was hard and sad to watch because Ana, naked and bend over the table, was already crying. She was also supposed to count with him to six. After he was "finished" he felt horrible and she did too. She started crying even more and said things like "Does that give you pleasure? Seeing me like this?" You could see that it didn't give him pleasure at all, he regretted it and so did she. She ran out the room, got dressed and wanted to leave. Christian wanted to apologize but Ana didn't let him. She said "No" and "Stop" and he stopped. He let her go. 

The movie ends with a cliffhanger that made my heart stop. Just like one of the first scenes Ana was in the elevator about to leave, and Christian was outside the elevator looking at her. He went "Anastasia" and she went "Christian." right before the elevator closed. 

After all she enjoyed what he was doing to her while he enjoyed what he was doing to her, as well. She never said something about not wanting it or wanting him to stop, or else. They both enjoyed it, while they we're having weird sex, and that is totally okay. 

You sure have to watch the movie yourself if you want to find out yourself, but here I am, telling you guys that it's not true. Not everything the media says is true, believe me. I hated myself after I watched the movie, because I was so possessed with my opinion that it IS abuse. Well guess what. It's not. The last scene was.. not okay. But guys, it's a movie after all. She showed him that it's not okay, he knows it now. He learned something from that. Just like you should from this blogpost. 

Now onto my actual movie review: 

After all I think the movie was pretty good. The storyline was interesting, and so was each scene. Every single scene was like a single puzzle piece to the whole plot. I really liked the actors and how they harmonized with each other. They were also naked quite a lot and the movie is +18 so do not watch it, if you're underaged! ( oops ) 

After all I'd give it 9 out of 10 stars! I really liked it. 

I hope I didn't forget anything important in this post. But if I do so and you notice it, please let me know in the comments below. Thank you very much! <3 

If you've got any kind of problem with this topic or with my blogpost, please do let me know. I would love to hear your opinions on this kinda topic. 

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x Mental Health x

This one is quite a biggie so.. please bEAR with me..

Okay so, as you can probably already tell by the title of this blog post, I would like to talk about metal health. Not because I like talking about it, but because I find it very important and there can never be enough posts about how incredibly important mental health is. 

Disclaimer: I am NOT mentally healthy therefore I kinda know what I'm talking about.. At least in THIS case.  This is kind of important for me so please read until the end.. <3

Also just to put it out there. I wanted to make this post because I feel like this could maybe help someone, because things like that helped me. In this post I want to talk about mental disorders, mostly Depressions and any kind of Anxiety. 

I did a lot of research for this so if you want me to talk about other mental illnesses just let me know and I'm gonna do it!!

Okay so, Let's just start off with the question: 

"What are mental disorders?" 

Well.. According to Urban Dictionary it's "when somthing fucks up with the brain thingies in your head" which is pretty accurate if you ask me. It's basicially when your head makes you think of stuff that is not true..I'm the worst person to describe this.. Basicially there are many mental disorders and every single one makes you feel something different and it laso makes your actions different.

For example: Depressions

There are many different states of depression and to be honest the describtions at Urban Dictionary are pretty good so.. The many many states include, according to Urban Dictionary [X2]:

1)  Sadness, tearfulness, crying. Also, crying for no apparent reason. 

2) Hopelessness feeling that life is not worth living or worth the effort to even maintain their appearance. They may believe that a negative situation will never change and be pessimistic about their future. 

3) Less interest in activities or not enjoying previously favorite activitie. Dropping out of clubs, sports, and other activities. Nothing seems fun anymore. 

I kinda want to wrap it up here even though there are so many more states but I think it'd be too long for this post so I'm gonna leave it here. BUT I also found this one on Urban Dictionary and I think it summs its up quite good so [X3]:

"A feeling which makes you think there is no hope, no way to survive, and no point in carrying on this charade you call a life. A feeling which is so emotionaly pressing, you feel as if you're going to explode with tears." 

So if you ever felt like that or feel like that right now, please go and tell someone about it. Maybe one of your friends? If you feel like no one is "friend" enough for you to tell them maybe your parents? If you feel like your parents aren't parents enough maybe a teacher? And if you feel like a teacher would make everything worse.. Please go and see a doctor or a therapist. If you feel like that would make you a freak..No! There is no such thing as "ugh, s/he's going to the therapist.. what a freak"No! Just no. It is so strong, I can't put it in words. It makes you one of the strongest people ever, even if you don't feel like that. Please always remember that

It's so strong to reach out for help.  

It's the strongest thing anyone could do to be honest.. 

Now onto the next mental disorder, which is what I also have to suffer with, so there's probably going to be more information about it than depressions.. sorry. 

Anxiety 

There are so many states of anxiety, I don't think I'll be able to list all of them but let me just tell you about what I found about anxiety to summarize this whole disorder.. 

Anxiety, within reason, is just a part of life; everybody experiences at some point. It is connected to the fight or flight syndrome that we, as have all animals, have deep within us, enabling us to survive. 

Some sympthoms of anxiety are: 

• Feeling of losing control or going crazy.
• Heart palpitations or chest pain.
• Feeling like you're going to pass out.
• Trouble breathing or choking sensation.
• Hyperventilation.
• Hot flashes or chills.
• Trembling or shaking.

• Surge of overwhelming panic, so like.. panic attacks. 

Now panic attacks are, according to Urban Dictionary "The worst, most uncomfortable thing that could ever happen to someone. (Death comes a close second)" and I agree. [X]

They just make you feel uncomfortable and sick and they make you cry and sometimes pass out and.. they're just the worst. So I made the effort to give you a little guide on "What To Do If You Have A Panic Attack". I hope it's helpful!

According to this website [here] there are 5 steps on overcoming panic attacks.

 It's called "5 Steps of Aware"

These 5 Steps are: 

Acknowledge & Accept 

Evereything starts here: One of the most important steps, so DO NOT SKIP IT ! 

Basicially, don't think "This is not happening! This is not happening!" and try to stop it by thinking about how "this is not happening right now!" Don't think about being scared to panic. Acknowledge it and accept it. But don't acknowledge that you're in danger because you're not! Acknowledge the fact that you're afraid. The thought that you're in danger is just another sympthom of panic, so like, not an important or an useful thought, if you ask me.

Wait 

This is similar to the suggestion "count to ten before you get mad". Don't just continue or start doing something!

When you react before you have the chance to think straight, what do you do? 

Well most people just flee or struggle, which doesn't sound pretty comforting, does it? Things like that actually make it even worse. This is also what people mean when they say things like "I know I'm doing it to myself" and fact is: the harder they try, the worse it gets. So just don't. Even though you have the urge to leave this state, please don't. But don't get me wrong here. Please keep that option open so you don't feel trapped but please just stay in the situation. You don't need to run away! Let the relief come to you! 

Actions ( to make yourself more comfortable ) 

At this point you already gone throught the two most important steps to overcome panic attacks! But now here's the question: What's Your Job During an Attack? 

The answer is simple: It's not your job to overcome the panic attack! That will happen to you no matter what you do. It's gonna be over at some point. Your only job now is to see if you can make yourself more comfortable, while you wait for the attack itself to end. 

A few techniques are the "Belly Breathing", Talking to yourself, Get involved in the Present and Work with your body. Now.. Let me explain them to you! 

"Belly Breathing" is also called "diaphragmatic breathing" but like.. Belly breathing sounds better and simpler, doesn't it? Many people think it's just deep breathing, and that's basicially true but those people don't really know how to breath deeply and correclt. A good breathing techinique is super powerful and it's one very important tool to overcome panic attacks. 

Talking to yourself ( silently! ) is as simple as it sounds. Talk to yourself about what is happening right now. Don't tell yourself that it's over soon. Don't put your body under pressure. Tell yourself that this is happening right now and that you're gonna get through this because you're strong! Don't think "what if...?" Answer this fearful question with "So what? I'll get afraid and then I'll calm down again!" You can do this!! 

Get Involved in the Present. That means basicially, that people normally don't panic in the present. They panic when they imagine something bad happening to them in the future or in the past. That is why you mostly ask yourself the fearful "what if...?" question. The reason you say "what if...?" is because your fear is not actually going to happen, you just don't really know that. So get back and get involved with the present, the people, the objects around you and the place you are. I promise it will move you closer to your goal of overcoming panic attacks. 

Work with your body: Identify, and relax, the parts of your body that get most tense during a panic attack. Typicially this involves tensing and then relaxing the muscles of your jaw, neck, shoulders, back and legs. Do not allow yourself to stand rigid, muscles tensed, and holding your breath. That'll just make you feel worse! If you feel like you can't even move one muscle, just start with one finger. It will get easier! 

Repeat 

This step is here because you might start feeling better and then you feel another wave of panic. Your first reaction might be "Oh [insert favourite swear word], it didn't work!" This step is here to remind you that it's okay if that happens! Just take it from the top again. It's not unusual or dangerous. You might even have to get through seven or eight cyrcles but that's okay! Repeat the AWARE steps again and take your time! Take as long as you need! 

End

This step is here to remind you that your panic attack will end. That all panic attacks end. That they end regardless of how you respond; that it's not your job to make it go away and that your only job is to make yourself as comfortable as possible while waiting for the attack to end itself.

Maybe next time you get thoughts like "Will this ever end?" your answer is gonna be a clear "Yes! Yes, it will!" 

So these are the 5 Steps of Aware! I really really hope they kinda helped you. ( if you want I can make a completely new post about those 5 Steps of Aware, just to make it easiert for you to find them later. Please, let me know! <3 ) 

I think I'm gonna wrap it up here because this is quite a lot but let me know if I forgot something or didn't point out the most important things.. Just please let me know! 

Also, if you think you could have a mental disorder please talk to someone about it. It could help a lot, even if you don't think it would. Please just try it. Also, if you feel like you can't talk to anyone: Come and talk to me! I am never going to ignore anything, I promise. Talk to me whenever you like. All my social media links are gonna be at the very end at this post. Please trust me that you can trust me. I've been there. ( I'm still there. ) I know what I'm talking about ( kinda ) and I would love to help someone. So please don't be shy.

If you don't wanna talk to anyone of your friends or family or school or me, why don't you just talk to someone on the internet? I know this website "7 Cups of Tea" ( because I am also a helper on this website and I sometimes chat with people ). I am guaranteing you that this actually will help! Just believe in yourself! <3


Also please make sure to, no matter what you do, think about yourself first! There is no such thing as being selfish when it's about mental health. You have to think about yourself and put yourself before anything and anyone! You're the most important human! Know that. 

Be strong! Because I know you are!

Please let me know what you think of my blog post. Was it helpful? Was it informational? Did you learn something? Did you miss something important that I should totally add to this ( because if that's the case I'm going to make a part 2 ) ? Just let me know in the comments below! <3 

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I'd love to help you.

A Night to Remember..

"and we'll never ever never ever never ever never ever ever never ever forget.." 

- High School Musical 3, A Night To Remember, duh. 

When I got home from school on Friday the 12th of December 2014 I got a text from a friend of mine... 

"Hey, this might be a bit late and it's fine if you say 'no' but.. would you like to come to the Ball with me and *friend*"

 I was hella confused. I remember this Ball thing they were talking about all week and all month really, but.. why are they asking me to go with them on the day the Ball was?? 

Well, i asked them and appareantly this one girl who was suppose to go with them couldn't go and so they thought of me ( which made me really happy to be honest.. I don't have a lot of friends ). I was so nervous and I didn't know what to do or say. When I thought about what Zoella* would say.. "Just Say Yes!" I knew that I wanted to go and I knew that I was gonna regret when I say No now so.. I said Yes. 

Half an hour later I was in my friend mom's car, driving me to my other friend. We got there and started getting ready. I borrowed a dress from my friend, because we luckily got the same size, and my two girlfriends sewed their dresses until they were completely finished. 

I wore the black one with the pink and golden glitter. 

When we got all dressed up my friend's mother came in her room with two huge suitcases. She opened them and they were filled with makeup.. It was like heaven.. She did our makeup and for the first time ever I wore fake lashes.

I even wore high heels!! I never wear high heels because I always feel too tall for everyone else.. and my friends are pretty tiny so.. I was huge. Nevermind. 

It was the ( i hate this word: ) girliest day ever. We got dressed, we painted our nails. We talked about school and boys and it was so cool. 

The hours ticket by as we got ready and listened to Marina and the Diamonds ( my favourite artist, which made this moment even better ) and then it was finally time to leave. We got there and.. I don't have words for this. 

I should probably explain what kind of Ball/Dance/Thing that was.. Well, it was a Ball in the Theater Hall in Freiburg ( am Breisgau ) and it was sponsored by this dance studio "Gutmann". There was food and drinks and shows and dance competitions and just rooms with different dance types to dance. To sum it up: It was perfect. 

If this was a movie then the plot twist would happen right here and guess what.. Of course, of course it happened. I got anxious and my heart started beating so fast. I couldn't breathe and everything was too loud and too much for me. Thankfully, after I went to the bathroom for like 20 minutes just to sit there and breathe, everything was okay again. 

After my mini-panik attack we all sat down in the main hall to watch this show. It was unbelieveably uncomfortable because I wore the shortest dress and high heels and everything was really.. let's just say there wasn't much space. The girl next to me, however, looked down at her phone right the moment I turned to her. I got a heartattack when I saw that her lockscreen in Troyler and I almost collapsed, to be honest. I've never met anyone from the fandom outside the internet, so that was a HUGE deal. Sadly.. I was too scared to talk to her and so she disappeard after the show and I didn't see her again that night. 

It got late and at one point I was like 'Wait, a second. It's almost 11pm.. I have to leave!'. So i texted my dad if he can pick me up. He answered right away and said he would be there in like an hour. Just when I finished reading his text my friends came up to me and they said super excited "They're doing this flashmob kinda thing. Let's go!" I just spent the hour, that I had to wait for my dad, with dancing with my friends and having fun while looking like complete freaks. I loved it. 

When the time has come to leave, walked out the dancing hall with my shoes in my hand because I couldn't handle them anymore. I put them back on, got my coat, hugged my friends and just as I was about to walk outside the building, a beautiful young woman stopped me and gave me this goody bag kinda thing. She said "Have a good night, Miss" and I walked ouside on the red carpet. 

She actually called me Miss. There was an actual red carpert and I actually walked over it. I spotted my dad and we drove home. At home I took all my makup off and went to sleep immidiatly, because I was so tired that I felt like I was gonna fall asleep any second.

Oh, and in the goody bag was: a calendar, with all the dates from the dance studio, a bottle of grapefruit juice and chocolate!! So that was a like.. a win/win. 

I kid you not when I say that this was one of the best nights of my fifteen year long life. I never want to forget how beautiful I felt as I walked into the building. How careless I felt when I danced with my friends. How special I felt that my friends actually invited me and how much fun I had for once.. outside the internet. 

I'm sure ( and I hope ), that I'm never going to forget this night.. 

But what about you?? Do you have any memories like that?? Nights you'll never forget?? Let me know in the comments! :) <3

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What do you like to do?

I've been inspired by Connor Franta's new video "A simple Question". Since I've watched it, I can't help but ask myself everyday.. what do I like to do? what makes me happy?? As in for now.. I'm gonna try and answer it. 

What do you like to do?

such a simple question. 

My answer is: 

I like to create art.

Let me tell you a little something about it. 

For as long as I can remember, I've been creative. I used to draw a lot in kindergarten and in pre-school. I guess it was always my hobby to draw and to paint. To combine colours and create a new one. Just to let my fantasy be free, really. 

2003 - 2009

This was my Art-folder when I left elementary school. I made it in kindergarten and that's now over ten years ago but I don't think I'll be able to throw it away some day in the near future.. 

2007

Just having these drawings and crafts and paintings from for my childhood just makes me feel so happy and.. and kinda proud of what I'm caipable doing now that I'm older and everytime I create something new I learn something from it and it makes me proud! I guess I just like this feeling.. of pride. 

Even though sometimes I feel like crying and painting all my paintings black because I'm mad or I don't have the patience to deal with anything anymore, I still finish it because after that I can look back at it and say "Wow, I did this myself. I did this myself. I can be proud of myself." 

I also really like giving paintings away as presents or just hanging them in my room and when people come in it's the first thing they can see. But I guess this has also something to do with pride. 

2005 Liz could say that she was proud of painting this: 

2005

2014 Liz can say that she's proud of painting this: 

2015

Here are some more paintings of mine: 

2014

2009

2004

Now the only question that's left is: What am I trying to achive with this? 

Of course I'm doing this because it makes me super happy and proud and I just really enjoy it.. But now I'm at the point where I'm gonna graduate from school in like.. 4 months. So what do I want to do after school? I of course still want to make art. I want people to look at paintings and think "Wow, that's amazing. This person has talent." That is all I want, really.

December, 2014. inspired by Ben J Pierce's "Little Game"

I am so proud of myself. 

Do things that you enjoy doing. 

Do things that make you proud.

You'll feel amazing. <3

But, please tell me: What do you like to do? <3

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